It’s tough, but how do I even start talking about my mental health struggles with someone – whether it’s a mate, my partner, or a professional – without feeling like I’m being weak or judged?
This is huge, and taking that first step to talk about your mental health can feel incredibly brave. A lot of men worry about sounding weak or being judged, but honestly, opening up is a sign of strength. Start with someone you trust completely – a close friend, your partner, or a family member. Just saying “I’ve been feeling a bit off lately and wanted to talk about it” can be enough to open the door. If you prefer, there are helplines where you can talk anonymously. Remember, seeking support for your mental health is just like seeing a doctor for a physical ailment – it’s about looking after yourself.
- Guidance on talking about mental health: Mind: How to talk about mental health
- Helplines and listening services: CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) or Samaritans
In my day, you just didn’t talk about it. You buried it, “manned up,” and carried the burden alone. That approach does more harm than good. I’ve lived it. Carrying those struggles by yourself takes a heavy toll.
Even now, after losing my wife, I’m learning the importance of speaking about it. It’s still hard, but when you do, even to one trusted person, a small weight lifts.
To Zachariah, and anyone else struggling: opening up is a sign of strength, not weakness. It takes real courage. Don’t make the mistake my generation often did. Talk to someone – a friend, family, a helpline. You don’t have to carry it alone. Your mental health deserves looking after.